Me and My Fibromyalgia
One doctor thought Helena Adams * had MS. Another doctor suspected the
true reason for her symptoms: fibromyalgia, but he predicted the disease would
go into permanent remission within five years. Twenty-nine years later, at
sixty years of age, Helena
is still suffering. But she’s not complaining. “Women come up to me after
services and squeeze my arm. They don’t know it hurts,” says Helena, and she’s not
telling them.
For Helena, the pain in her arms and legs and the way her fingers tend to ‘lock,’ are just
the way things are. She’s grateful her symptoms aren’t worse. “Weather has
no effect on my symptoms, and I don’t get tired or have to take to bed, like
some people do.”
The main issue for Helena
has been pain management. She’s tried many medications including Naproxin and
Celebra, but after a few months, Helena
finds that she develops a resistance to medications. “The last medication
I tried was Etopan. I was taking 800 mg. but it stopped working. They all do. I
get [cortisone] shots every few months. They help. My doctor is very good. I
hardly feel them and he knows just the right places.”
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask For Help.
Though Helena
doesn’t complain, she’s not afraid to ask for help. “If there’s no bagger
at the supermarket, I open my mouth. I say, ‘Please will you open this bag for
me.'”
Sharon Halaby’s* doctor told her that in order to be diagnosed with
fibromyalgia, she had to have 11 out of a possible 18 pain points. She had 14.
“I had pain and inflammation in my neck, hands, fingers, knees, ankles,
feet, and a general ache in my spine. I was lucky, though, and I recovered
without having to consult a whole slew of doctors.”
Halaby is grateful that she hasn’t had too many recurrences. “I
have an episodic, acute type of fibromyalgia. When I have an episode, I can’t
move from the couch for three days, and then I feel achy but functional for
about two weeks.”
Slow Down, You Move Too Fast.
A psychologist by profession, Halaby knows better than anyone that her
episodes of fibromyalgia are brought on by stress, “It’s always due to specific stress. I think it’s a good sign I’ve only had two episodes in the
past four years. In my professional experience, most fibromyalgia sufferers are
hyper-achievers. There’s comorbidity with depression. Fibromyalgia seems to be
some innate message in a person’s body telling him to slow down.”
*Names have been changed.