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ok im freaking out.............AGAIN
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mm30 - October 4

was talking to some of you the last few weeks about hair loss and getting my horomone levels checked and vitamin d levels checked etc.

well i got my test results today. dr phoned me. she said that my d results were fine.
estrogen levels are fine but that my LH levels are very high for my age and that they are showing at 12.5 when they should be 10.

This panicked the life out of me. and i asked her can it affect fertility and she said yes :(

she wants to redo tests tomorrow. also she is concerned that there may be a connecting with my hair loss ( really quite thin at this stage) :(

i have been looking on the net and see poly cystic ovaries linked to high Luthian levels and ive totally freaked myself out.
because we have never tried for children or anything its all double dutch to me. :(
My partner and i long for children its like our ultimate goal. we were holding off to get married and sort out our home etc.

im praying it my birth control that may be affecting it and its not a permanent thing or that it may all be stress related and can be resolved.
any advise or stories to calm me down greatly appreciated:(


Fantod - October 5

mm30 - Look, the Internet is a wonderful thing but the amount of information that is available on any given subject is staggering. Just because you read it doesn't make it so.

One of the keys to having a somewhat peaceful coexistence with FMS is crossing bridges when you come to them. When you have factual information that applies directly to you, I am giving you permission to freak out. Until then, try to remain calm and think positive thoughts.

Medicine is pretty amazing these days. A lot of things that are running amok or flat out broken can be fixed. You did the right thing by seeing your doctor right away. My mantra is this: "things will work out the way they are supposed to." Getting agitated over something you can not address at the moment only makes the rest of your symptoms worse. Take a deep breath and hold on - we are all here for you. Hugs.


mm30 - October 5

yeah i hear what your saying fantod and thanks.

i was in with her today for the tests again. it is actually my eggs that are bad. showing much older levels than what i should be a 30 yrs. so she is ringing me with results on friday. she says i need to have a good think about whether i should just try now. but not to leave it too long. anyway i guess i will know more on friday. she doesnt seem to think fibro related but im thinking surely stress may have some affect. my fhs levels are 12.9 which is not good should be between 7 and 10 :( anyway as i said before totally confusing stuff. just have to pray now.
thanks for your response fantod. x


Fantod - October 5

mm30 - I am sorry to hear your news. I doubt it is FMS or even stress related. We are all programmed differently in the DNA department. Some processes start earlier for some people as opposed to others. As an example, my mother did not develop spinal stenosis until her 70's. I started in my 50's. Apparently, I was standing in the wrong line when they were handing out this stuff.

Not to be dismissive, but the bright side is that it was caught in time so you still should have options. I'll be praying for you and your partner.


Stacey373 - October 6

Hi MM - I'm sorry to hear this. Not really the news you were hoping for. I don't know if this is an irresponsible thing for me to say...but it seems to me like every time people "plan" to have kids when things are better...they NEVER get better! You are always going to have stress in your life, always going to be striving for the financial security, it seems it's always going to not be a good time, something is always going to come up that will make you decide to "put this off" till later. when you have a baby you suddenly find the money and the time and it doesn't matter if you have to put other goals off for awhile...because suddenly that baby is the MOST important thing in your life.

(sorry...don't know if that makes any sense...I finally got some sleep but I'm up way too darn early!)

I'm not saying you should run out there and get pregnant immediately...but I'm sure you always thought you could put it off for sometime later in the future. Now you are finding out it may be harder to do this than you thought. I honestly think that no matter what's going on in your life, having a baby is going to only make things better. I probably went about having kids the "wrong" way...but I can't imagine my life without them and God only knows where I would have ended up if I didn't have them.

I realize the stuff you are going through right now probably REALLY isn't the right time to try to have a baby. But if it's that important to you...maybe you should seriously discuss what's going on with your partner. Even if you stop taking BC pills could be years before you ever get pregnant.

anyways....I hope what I've said helps...I don't want to upset you even more. I just want you to really think about what is most important in your life. Take Care, Stacey :o)


mm30 - October 6

hi girls,

ya i know what you are both saying. its certainly food for thought i will absalutely be coming off birth control and hoping for the best.
what a truely crap year it's been. when ever i say things have to get better the seem to just get worse and worse and worse.

i know you have yours as well so thanks for taking the time.



duhda75 - October 7


I would have to agree with Fantod and Stacey on this one. I believe "EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON". Although it's rough at times. I beleive God would not deal you more than you are capable of handling. Sometimes it seems like too much. But, somehow it all works out.

I am sorry for your difficulties right now. I had fertility problems and didn't know if I would be able to become pregnant. But, planning is so much more stressful than not planning for a pregnancy. If we all waited and planned til the right time, then many of us would never have had children. It will happen when the timing is right. You still have plenty of time (age wise). Look into your options and just be informed.


Stacey373 - October 7

Hi MM again - I agree with Duhda. I'm not a religious person, but I absolutely think everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we don't always know the reason until years later...but when you look back you realize what is was. Every single time something bad has happened in my life, something good has always come out of it.

Maybe finding out this bad news right now will actually end up being a good thing. Even losing your job could be a good thing. I keep thinking that by losing your job and now finding this fertility stuff out...maybe you will get pregnant. And then you will look back on this and say "well by losing my job I was able to deal with the pregnancy and fibro" and by finding out about the fertility stuff you will say "I wouldn't have had this baby if that hadn't have happened." And you will end up being SO thankful that these "bad things" had happened to you!

when I got pregnant with my first child (my son) I was only 19 years old and not in a good place. I was doing ALL the wrong things and who knows what would have happened to me if I had kept going that way. My son actually "saved my life" and suddenly I had to be responsible because I had to give him a good life. When I got pregnant with my 2nd child I was in a very abusive relationship. I was able to get out of it because I couldn't put another child through that. I ended up marrying my best friend (very spontaneously) and almost 12 years later...that was one of the best "stupid" decisions I ever made in my life! And when I got pregnant with my 3rd child, I was on the verge of leaving my husband (not his fault at all) and she basically saved this marriage.

More husband lost his job and we had no idea how we were going to make it. He hated his job but it was real good getting laid off he was able to go back to school and finally do what he's always wanted to do. point is that even when things seem so bad, good things will happen to you because of it. Like I may not see it right now...but eventually you will look back and realize the good that came out of this too.

Stay positive and Take Care, Stacey :o)


mm30 - October 7

hi again, ya i take what you are all saying. absalutely. i'll take the pregnancy now if it will have me :) to me that is my only option if my dr reconfirms tests. ill do what ever i have to do to give myself the best chance. no questions.
we wanted to plan for kids this year but when everything went wrong i dont even think my body would have been able to concieve. periods were six weeks at time every couple of weeks.

stacey i work a 45 hour very stressful week now its only three weeks into it but i come home and fall into bed - its very understaffed and im carrying way more than my fair share. they really saw me coming. my head constantly feels like my scalp is shrinking on my head. and there is hair blowing through the house like tumble weed so i just gotta get healthy now and try not let it get to me.

i was talking to you and fantod before about my home situation and you were both so amazing to me. well there is movement we have tenants got for the house on years contract and they hope to save deposit in the year and possibly buy it. ( providing nightmare neighbors dont scare them off)

we are moving in two weeks to a house in the country side - its not much but we will be able to try to get on with our lives and hopefully get the stress levels down.


Stacey373 - October 7

Oh honey I'm so sorry! I totally forgot that you got another job. I know you probably don't have a choice, but you really shouldn't be pushing yourself so hard. You need to be taking care of yourself FIRST, ya know?

I'm glad things are starting to work out with your house and getting into a new place. Maybe it will work out for the best in the end.

I wish I could give you some better advice. I should probably just keep my mouth shut at this point! LOL I don't seem to be helping you to feel better!

Well you know I'm always here if you need to talk. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, Stacey :o)


mm30 - October 7

oh stacey you have :D i want real conversation not someone telling me everything i want to hear. :)

thanks again



jrzgirl1 - October 7

I think that if you relax,and focus on each other, sometimes it works, when your really not trying,then you have a chance at getting pregnant, if you cannot afford to go on a vacation, even one night in a hotel might help. I pray that God will answer your prayers


Fantod - October 8

Mel - Great news on renting your house! I hope the move is not too much for you on top of everything else. I think a change of scenery will do both of you a lot of good. If nothing else, getting away from the nightmare neighbors will be a blessing. Anything to reduce stress is a good thing. Take care, stay positive and enjoy the rest of the weekend.


mm30 - October 8

thanks everyone. it means so much. today i was supposed to ring the doctor for results but i wanted to leave it till after work. when i did they were closed for the weekend. :( hopefully no news is good news.

i agree we need some us time never mind procreation just some chill out time and hopefully the rest will follow. thank you all so much for all your responses. it means so much. i dont want to abuse fibro website but i wasnt sure if it might be fibro related or not. again thank you for being good friends x i hope you all have a good weekend and as pain free as possible :)


Fantod - October 9

Mel - Don't worry about "abusing" this site. With FMS you can never be quite sure what the heck may be an associated symptom. And, since a high level of anxiety is part of the package you are perfectly correct in sharing your concerns. I hope that you are able to get some rest this weekend, enjoy some time with your partner and focus on some the good things life has to offer. Take care.


mm30 - October 9

thanks fantod, i had a good day today i started a college course. im going back to learn how to teach the courses i have completed in the passed.its called train the trainer. i thought i would open a few doors for me and help get some of my confidence back. a change might be as good as a rest. :) now some chill out time with my better half tonight. hope you all have a good weekend xxx Mel



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