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spouse of fms - January 24

I am desperate, my husband has had fms for 4 years and tried to commit suicide supposedly due to the pain. Can someone help me understand is it really this Bad??


BRENDA - January 24

Yes the pain from FMS can be very bad & sometimes we are not able to get it down to an exceptable level. However thoughs of suicide is most associated with depression. Sometimes things like pain, the feelings of lose ( because we can not do the things we use to do or want to do), feelings of hopelessness, & uselessness....just to name a few. Most of us are on at least one antidpressant & many see psychologists for just this reason. It is hard to make someone else to understand, but if you read this site & our posts it will help. Please continue to ask questions, we will do our best to help!


larry - January 24

Dear Spouse,

Please try to fnd a fibro and fatigue center near you. This syndrome is very, very treatable and he could live symptom free. My pain went away in the first month. There are many underlying conditions as to why this exists. Because it involves many different systems in the body the odds are that 90% of the time a doctor will not understand this as they are not trainned to look at the body holistically. Therefore there is huge misunderstanding on this. For Clarification I suggest that you read "Living well with Fibromyalgia, What your doctor doesn't tell you that you need to know" by Mary Sholom. To find a fibro and fatigue center near you go to They have a 90% success rate and the program is 6 months long . I am on month 4 and feeling sooooooo much better. Good Luck and let me know how you make out.


dream69 - January 24

I suggest buy Ginger root tea. This will help your husband without a doubt. Tell him to take it once a day one hour before he goes to sleep. Ginger root tea has potent chemicals that block the perception of pain plus it has no side effects and it is completely safe.


larry - January 24

Dear Spouse, dream69 is correct. What he describes is part of the program that I am being treated for at the fibro and fatigue center. I am taking natural supplements and bio-identical hormones that address the adrenals, thyroid, hypothalmus, etc. Additionally, ginger tee is very good to address the pain. Your spouse can feel better immediately . Then the underlying co-infections need to be addressed. There is hope.


Lyle Anderson - January 24

Dear Spouse, You can get so much information of FMS that it can be stifling. However, Brenda is right. FMS can be very, very painful. Different pain solutions work for different people. The complexity of FMS makes it different for each one of us. Latest research says that we with FMS have too much in the spinal column of the neurotransmitter that transmits pain signals and too little in the brain of the neurotransmitter that stops pain signals. You will be advised to try a lot of things to get your husband the help he needs and unfortunately, you may have to try all of them before you find the one that suits him best. But remember, it's not just the patient who suffers from FMS, it's his entire family and support system. You are suffering, too, from not understanding, from wathcing him suffer, from feeling helpless. Make sure you take care of yourself as well because one of the biggest problems people who suffer from FMS have is from their loved ones not understanding or becoming frustrated. You sound very supportive and loving and he is lucky to have you. Hang in there and take care of yourself as well. Please remain in contact with us and we will try to do our best to help.


larry - January 24

Dear spouse, I am sure my response did not make sense to ou when I wrote that dream69 is correct about the HPT dissconnect. I was commenting on his post under another thread where he wrote "The association of traumatic exposures with fibromylagia (FM) is well known. To date, studies have linked traumatic stress exposures to such conditions as cardiovascular disease, diabetes, gastrointestinal disease, FM, chronic fatigue syndrome, musculoskeletal disorders, and other diseases. In addition, clinical studies have suggested the biological pathways through which stressor-induced diseases may be pathologically expressed. In particular, recent studies have implicated the hypothalamic-pituitary-thyroid (HPT) as key in this pathogenic process, which is modulated by genetic and behavioral/psychological risk factors. In more mundane terms a major stressful event will dysregulate the hypothalamus-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis as well as the hypothalamus-pituitary-thyroid (HPT) axis. How we cope or recover from this event depends on our genetic makeup. If someone has a predisposition to have FM then such an event will precipitate the onset of such disease. "" This is what I was referring to when I said that dream69 is correct and this is what I am being treated for at the fibro and fatigue center. I hope this helps you.


yannie - January 24

to spouse of fms....i have found fms to be a mental battle as well as a daily physical battle.Everyone has a different pain tolerance, and sometimes it's hard to get relief - other days can be better but the struggle of keeping up your work demands, medical expenses. less social activity all contribute to tremendous mental stress and depression...especially if the doctors and family dismiss the symptoms. The pain is real and there are alot of suggestions in this forum that may help but no guarantees that one remedy cures everybody. I am helped by sublingual B12 even though my dr. said my test for b12 was normal - since I take it I have less burning and numbness in my hands and feet...don't take it within hours of Vitamin C OR YOU LOSE SOME OF THE Vit.b12 POTENCY. To ease the pain I keep active and do gentle moderate exercise - it hurts but to not move and use the muscles increases pain and stiffness. Physical therapy, ginger teas, healing massage, supportive family and a doctor who recognizes the illness help one get thru fms one day at a time...there is research ongoing - and I believe prayers and laughter are healing too. I hope your spouse finds the help he needs and i will keep you in my prayers.



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