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walking with a cane
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canadacalling - June 10

I have had this fibro for many years, and because I feel so dizzy alot and have fallen from turning around too fast, I am thinking that I need a cane or stick. The problem is why should I feel so embarrassed? I am so self conscious about what my friends would think. Why do I have these feelings? I guess they would feel sorry for me, and I don't want that or do I?. I always think I am a strong person, but gee, what gives. This should bring in some good responses I hope. Thanks a lot, and keep well.


Fantod - June 11

I don't think that you should feel embarrassed at all. If using a cane is going to keep you from falling and possibly breaking something than the need is real. Recognizing the need makes you a very strong person. What your friends think is immaterial. They don't have to live with FMS and all of its "perks." If they choose to feel sorry for you instead of recognizing that you are being brave and sensible that is their loss. Get a cane and use it. Take care.


solanadelfina - June 11

I understand. I, too, have a lot of balance problems but didn't want to buy a cane for a while. I felt that it was ridiculous for a twenty-five year old to be using one.

But, it makes for a lot more freedom. On the days I do use one, it's much better than walking near a wall or needing to touch surfaces for support. For walking around the block in the country, a good friend bought me a wicked cool dolphin dagger cane. For going somewhere public that doesn't like concealed weapons, I have one that has four little 'feet' for extra support that's great for balance. One day, I'd like to deck it out in glittery ribbon, a few charms hanging on it, and make it look like a bellydance cane that's ready for dancing.

People don't really make a big deal out of it. I've had only three people ask me about it, two of whom were people I was talking to already. And hey, people seem to be a lot more patient when you're crossing a street. ;) My friends have always taken all of my fibro 'quirks' in stride, and this was no different.

My advice is to buy the coolest one you can find that will work for you. A carved fantasy style one, a sleek metallic one in a flashy color, or a fun printed one that can fold up when you don't need it. Or buy a basic one and make it yours. Just like picking up yummy teas when juice is no longer feasible or trying an exotic new fruit with sugar being a problem, it's taking a necessity and doing it with style.


canadacalling - June 13

Thanks Fantod & solanadelfina:
These were very good suggestions and I knew I would get good ones from you both.

One question further, did you need to get used to a cane as far as putting the correct foot first or whatever?

That's it, I do have a coloured one that folds up, but will put it out to full and it will look snazzy.


Fantod - June 14

Canes are often used to assist in balance, widen ones base of support, and decrease weight bearing on a lower extremity. In order to achieve these functions, however, one must know how to properly use a cane. Here I will review the appropriate way to walk safely with a cane on level surfaces.
1) Hold the cane in the hand on your unaffected side so that it provides support to the opposite lower limb

2) Advance the cane simultaneously with the opposite affected lower limb.

3) Lean your weight through the arm holding the cane as needed.

4) Always have the unaffected lower limb assume the first full weight-bearing step on level surfaces.


canadacalling - June 15

thanks alot. I did use the cane yesterday practising it in the mall. I am sure I was on the wrong foot but it still helped a great deal. Take care.


Fantod - June 15



kvc33 - June 20

To be honest I don't understand the idea of being embarrassed about needing a cane or other device. I had to wear a neck brace for a month and I think it made my disability more real for my family and that was a plus because they seem to take it so lightly. My bf uses a cane and I kind of like it because it lets the world know that we are a special couple that deserves respect for what we have been through. Strength has nothing to do with a persons health status and I am the first person to admit that I am weak in many ways. So what? Does it make me any less human? Or you?


lucky13 - July 23

I agree, I am the same way. Only I have been fighting the thoughts of talking to my Dr about a hadicap tag so i can park close to places on my bad days. Not only are bad days bad, but if I have to go out, I also have kids to get out of the car (11 yr, 3 yr, 10 mth and newborn on the way) so I'm thinking about talking to the Dr, especially for this winter, I have raynauds which makes the cold unbareable. But I guess part of my embarrasment is because Fibro is an invisible disability so no one will understand why this young healthy looking woman is taking up a handicap space.
So I also understand the point someone made about the cane (like the neck brace) makes your problem seem more real to everyone else.
I'm still undecided on what I should do.


canadacalling - July 26

Hi there:;;;; You may have difficulty in getting a handicapped sticker. I had one at one time but tried to get it renewed and it was not allowed by my then Dr. They are very cautious up here in Canada and probably as well as the states. Good luck anyway. Lots of paperwork etc. Have a good day.


RLFORTIN - October 28

I use a cane daily and it HELPS a lot. At first my 5 yr old daughter asked " Mommy, Why do you need to use a cane? You're not old..." Funny how kids thinks. I did feel alittle akward at first and I then I got used to it. It does not bother me at all any more.


Auvonto - November 4

I have had to use a cane on several occasions. just last week when i took my daughter shopping at the mall for a Homecoming dress she had to wheel me around in a wheel chair. it happens as embarrassed as we all might be a the time we sometimes need the help. if you need it use it, its better then falling and hurting yourself more. be well


oktoberlady - November 19

I was the same way.I started out with a regular cane but found that a quad cane worked much better in the wet snow with wet leaves underneath. You get better traction. I got a purple one with flames up the center or it. After a year or so, I got steadier on my feet and don't use the cane so much anymore. Hardly at at all really. Maybe you will too. But never feel embarrassed. If you need it, use it. It's better than falling and breaking something.



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