Listen Kristina, it is not in your head, if you were diagnosed by a rheumotologist, then you have it. Well, I had a car accident 10 years ago, I was a young mom with three small children, and for one year, my family doctor kept telling me it was in my head. I am a Psychotherapist, and I always knew it was not in my head, but no one was listening to me. I loved the outdoors, from cycling, to hiking, you name it. I got to the point where I was in bed for a whole year, unable to lift my head off the pillow. I did put on 50 lbs, became depressed, anxious, and in terrible pain. After a year, a psychiatrist sent me to a rheumotologist who diagnosed me with fibromyalgia, and he left it at that. I figured, you know what, I will research and take back control over my life, who else would take care of my young children. No one believed me I was in pain because there was no physical evidence. Well, I am going to tell every single person who does suffer from real fibromyalgia, diagnosed by a rheumotologist, not just a physiotherapist, or a massage therapist. There is hope in managing the pain even if you feel that there is not. I went to a support group where everyone was crying, well, I cried enough already, I needed hope, not another episode of depression.
You need to find what works for you. If you can, stay away from medication. What worked for me (at times hahaha), swimming in warm water, aquafitness, yoga, stretches, relaxation techniques like breathing, and most importantly, do not get frustrated when you are having a bad, painfull day. Accept the bad days without stress, stress will only add to the pain. I have a lot of stresses in my life that does aggrivate my fibromyalgia, but I cannot change that, so I accept it, and go with the flow. In my good days, I go out, clean the house, visit friends, and feel alive again, and in my bad days, I dragg myself with my pain and all, go to work, and do what I am suppose to do feeling dead.
As a 10 years fibromyalgia survivor, no one understands what you are going through, or at times believe the extent of the pain and suffering, oh well, that's ok, train yourself to accept your situation, and do what you can when you can.
Don't allow people or fibromyalgia take over your will to fight.