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Want to support a friend with Fibro
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want2support - January 29

Hi. I have a male friend, a neighbour actually whom I have a little more interest in than just a friend at this moment in time and I just want some advice as to not treading on his toes with regards to his illness. I want to support him in any way that I can, just be there seeing as he takes a special place in my heart.

I think that I know never to tell him that I feel sorry for him, but I do,extremely and I don't know if feeding him with info on his own illness will help much, perhaps he may feel that I want to find a cure when I can't. I just want to help in any way that I can.

Any advise on what I can do to show my support would be great.

 

Canada17 - January 29

Just be a friend. Offer to help with things, don't pre-empt it by mentioning his illness. If he's having a hard day, tell him that you understand what Fibro is doing to him and you want him to know that he will always be able to turn to you for support.

I don't want anyone to feel sorry for me. But I don't want people to be more understanding that when I say something hurts, it hurts and asking me why only frustrates me because I don't have a reason aside from, "I have Fibromyalgia". I can't know for sure, but I would think that men with Fibro would be even more hesitant to befriend someone they thinks only hangs around out of pity because men are supposed to be the strong ones.

You could offer to cook him dinner, or give him a hand with chores he may have a hard time doing. You could bring over a funny movie and just have some laughs. You are on the right track, don't tell him you feel sorry for him; just send him your love, friendship, and support.

 

Canada17 - January 29

**edit** I said: "But I don't want people to be more understanding that when I say something hurts,"

I meant: "But I DO want people to be more understanding that when I say something hurts,"

oops...

 

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