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Men with Wives who Have Fibro.....
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Bfavray - January 16

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

How many times of our life times have we seen these versus from the Bible. Heck I bet 50% of all marriages have them read during those 1st days.
Which leads me to the 1st point. Men lets not forget those Vows we said the day we were married. Remember the good with the bad or however your pastor or preacher said it. I think when we say those we tend to not think about the bad.
2nd I know for us being men and the way we are made up it takes a little more work on our part to do what comes so much more easier for the women. But shall we never forget that if roles were reversed I know the women would do all they needed to and then some. So then why wont we?

Well let me help give some insight. I am a 38 year old man with a loving 30 year old wife. Yep I said and she is beautiful!!!! She has given me more than I could have ever imagined. Her eyes are what sold me years ago. On top of everything else she has given me the greatest gift a wonderful beautiful little girl with those same big dark brown eyes.

So rewind to over a year ago when a landscaper in his big truck pulled out in front of my wife and daughter and my wife t-boned them. My daughter was snug in a rug in that 400 car seat I had complained about years ago. Well I made my wife go to the hospital.

Need less to say she has developed Fibro from that accident. Cool right we are going to get paid. I thought that a few weeks ago after the accident but there is no amount of money out there that will ever replace what was stolen from my family.

Now it takes me 30 minutes to get my wife out of bed on a god day. Her cocktails of meds are staggering. I work travel and try and do all I can but its never enough. Lets not talk about sex.

See the issue for us men is that someone with Fibro does not look sick most of the time. they are not lying in bed or throwing up or have a bunch of tubes running threw them. That's where we struggle.On top of that we need to keep them up bet and encouraged which is hard for us. Where is our encouragement...

Friend if this is you all I can say is my wife has Fibro and there are good days and bad days for me as well. BUT my wife paid her dues she married me she has loved me like no other. So I encourage you look to the Lord he will supply you with what you need and Read that scripture next time you don't feel like doing anything for her. REMEMBER SHE WOULD NO QUESTIONS ASKED!!!

 

ibritz - January 19

It's obvious you and your wife and daughter are blessed. The priest who performed our wedding spoke of us being gifts to each other. We've had some pretty rough spots, been married 25 years. I am not a very healthy person, but my husband is still here. I brought my husband to the Lord about 12 years ago. Had that not happened, I don't think we'd be together today. Your post got me to thinking, all the people that don't work through this - You are actually throwing away a gift from God. Unbelievable!!

And yes, I do what I can for my husband. He has a health issue too. I can't do all I'd like for him, but I do everything I can for him.

I love what you wrote, I am sorry about your lives being changed because of a horrible accident, but your heart is with Jesus, and you know what that means. God bless you all!

 

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