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Help with Boss's Fibromyalgia Symptoms
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zoie101 - September 22

My husband is having a horrible time at work with a boss who blames his horrible mood swings, addiction to pain killers and abusive nature on fibromyalgia. I want to try to understand the best way to help my husband help his boss - who is also a friend of his. Or he WAS a friend. This person has pushed everyone away and is so horrible to deal with his wife is at her wits end. He tells everyone we don't understand his pain and that is probably true. He spends days and days in the bed or on the sofa - sending out ugly emails and yelling at everyone over the phone. I don't see things getting any better. Has anyone had this experience? Thanks for your help.


Fantod - September 22

First of all, I would like to recommend that the spouse of the Fibro sufferer find a counsler who specializes in chronic illness and/or pain. She should go immediately to get some support for herself. She can call the local hospital physician referral service and ask them for a recommendation.

Has the wife spoken to his doctor/s about his terrible behavior? Can she make an appointment to talk them separately and then maybe a joint appointment with the patient to decide what should be done.

Obviously the man is in terrible distress. And, it may be more than just the Fibromyalgia (FMS) that is triggering these wild mood swings. It could be caused by some of his meds, another underlying condition or just the inability to admit that he needs help.

It is also hard to know based on your description just what kind of medical help this man is getting for the Fibromyalgia. There are still many doctors out there that don't believe it exists. And there is a whole other segment that doesn't treat it properly. He should be seeing a rheumotologist and/or a pain specialist that have an interest in FMS. Again, this can be accomplished by calling the local hospital physician referral service. Or, the wife can register online at the National Fibromyalgia Association website. Then she can see a list of fibro-friendly doctors in your area. If nothing else, she should insist on a second opinion and be prepared to be brutally honest about the situation and his behavior.

Your husband is in a unique position as he is both a friend and employee. I'd say that it would be better for the immediate family to deal with this. He can offer support when and if the situation gets better. Right now the family has to figure out how to address this situation and make him see that he is being abusive to both them and his employees. That is why I am suggesting that the wife see a counseler immediately as the first step. Take care.



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