Fibro is just another way, that your body is telling you to treat it better and to take care what you do, what you eat, etc. etc.
Think of your body as a temple, if it's not hurting then you have achieved a life with no pain.
You will need to experienced many drugs, many doctors, many massages, and many of everything, until you find what works for you. It's by posting questions and reading the comments, that you learn. I like to come on this forum, because no matter what, you always get someone to will answer your post and there's always someone who will give you a pat on the back, when you are feeling blue. You will always be welcome and you will always be respected. It's my way to make peace with my bodies, and that I am not alone, that we are struggling together, just a different times.
As for massage, my dear friend, I prefer, the water massage, heat massage and the California massage. Water massage is lying on your stomach on a massage table and water falls over you like rain, and the masseuse massages your body. It's relaxing, and I can really melt. You won't find this everywhere.
The other that is nice to try is the California massage, it's gentle and you won't feel like a mac truck drove over your body.
Trigger points, neck/shoulder, needs machine, massage machine like the one you have works, whatever works, sometimes going swimming, others say a long hot shower might do the trick, there's always creams and gels that could help you, some prefer the chiro or physio.
Epidural works, but not all the time, so I'm not sure if it's because they don't give you enough of the stuff or that your body isn't responding because you have such a bad flare up. Sometimes I can just take my Ralivia (aka tramadol) a 24 hours release tablet, I am up to two a day, beyond the two, it's just seem to heighten my pain. I'm so use to the pill that I can normally work and it won't even bother me.
FMS you constantly tweak your medication for optimal free of pain.
I suggest you read what other people post and comment on, you will get answers and new things to try.
There's a few guy's on the website and I always value their insight, because I really don't know how it affect men. I understand we are all made with skin and bones, muscles and tendons etc etc. but men in general don't feel as much pain like a women does. It's albout muscles etc.
The one thing I would tell you to do, without fault is: drink water, lots of it, at least 6 to 10 glasses of water, this helps, flushes out the toxins in your body. Men in general don't drink lots of water, they actually drink far less water then women. Men have more water weight then women do, but women will complain that they feel bloated and think it has something to do with water, it's a true fact tht if you feel bloated you are retaining, and that's a call there's someothing else going on. I keep telling women, drink the water even when you feel bloated, it will make you loose the toxins.
You must take a good quality vitamin and with that you have to take your glusomine and some fish oil that helps to relieve brain fog.
Stay away from sandwich meats, and stay away from the BBQ or anything spicies. Stay away from potatoes and stay away from anything refined, flour or sugar.
Do eat good meals with plenty of vegetables and less meat. A beer is ok, but not if you drink several you will feel the pain the next day.
Some find relief smoking a joint, if you go to the top of the pages on the right hand side and click on Fibromyalgia Drugs, some people talk about it.
You have to excersize moderately, stretching helps so does other types of excersize. It's better that you move, even if it means just talking a walk outside and playing outside with your kids, anything to keep the body moving. If you sit too long you tend to hurt more. If you are not in shape it will take you awhile to get moving by everyone says that when they move they feel better, then just sleeping and sitting down.
We all tend to sometimes not do too much because are body really hurt.