I to am sorry for your loss. Especially the loss of a child, such a little angel to have passed away, so early in life.
The doctor's comments where way out of line, on this one, I would sight with Fantod, and write a letter to your insurance company, start writing and look at the letter in a few days, and try to clear up your letter.
It's a nice excercize to do, it helps to relief that pent up anger you have within you. As time goes by, maybe a few more days, try it again. What you want to achieve is to let the emmotion go and just state the facts and at the end, put in a little bite into it, that they understand the situation.
I have done it often, where I felt someone had belittle me and what I found, that by writing the comments to how I had been treated, it took away the anger and as time progress I was able to get a nice worded letter and was able to get my point accross. It's also a tension reliever, because you are getting your emotions out in the open.
I truly feel for you, but reading the post again and again, I feel that maybe what you are going through is the loss of your baby daughter, your angel and that you are trying to get pain medication because your body is screaming pain, but it's all attributed to how you are feeling.
I would sight with the doctor on holding out on the pain medication, for two things, a) I beleive what you are going through even though it's been 7 months, is the loss of your daughter and you are not coping well. You might be able to work and play nice when you meet people and when your mind is engage, you are able to forget the sad part, it keeps your mind, not to think of what has happened in the past.
What I would do, is go seek a councellor and talk about your feelings, go with your fiance, and talk openly with what you are feeling, I believe you haven't had the chance to do this. The councellor is there to help you talk about it, by releasing some of this anger for loosing your baby girl, and talking about it, helps you release your pain from loosing someone you loved so much and some anger.
The second thing, is I am afraid my dear girl that you maybe going through a depression from the death of baby angel.
As for the doctor seeing you crying and you asking for strong meds, would tell him, not to give it to you. Rightly so, because you can self medicate and as time would pass you would be asking for yet stronger pain medication, but it would never be enough.
In fact I truly beleive you need to see your gp, hopefully she or he will understand, and maybe put you on something to help you morn the loss of your baby girl but also to help you not be so sensitive to other people's callous remark.
I wish you the best my dear girl, take the time to see the light that you are in mourning and that you have to take the time to mourn her. That no matter the pain pill you take, it will never be enough for you. Self medication works to help you with pain, but not emotional pain, at one point down the road that pain will return with a vengeance and when it does you will fall twice as hard, and it will be twice has hard to get up again to fight the world.
I know the pain is a factor, but I'm really feeling that you need a few councelling sessions, to help you pass the mourning. If by then the councelling has helped you and you are still feeling the angst of fibro pain, then seek medical help for your pain.
At least the new doctor who will treat you, will not feel that you are trying to self medicate.
There other treatments out there that could help you, and I do think you can find caring doctor who can help you with pain management.
Call your insurance company, maybe they know of someone you could try, I'm sure they get calls about how they are performing.
Good luck to you and your fiance.