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Fibromyalgia - Are We Pain Prone?
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Theadora - March 11

This is from Online web sources; Wikipedia:TMS; and Dr Brady's website: www.bradyinstitute.com/aboutBook/painProne.asp - - - "Fibromyalgia, Sciatica, Nerve pain, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Insomnia, Back pain, Shoulder and Neck pain, Tension and Migraine Headaches, other chronic pain-associated ailments are caused by harmful levels of stress, pressure, and repressed strong negative emotions that have built up in the subconscious mind. In AOS, subconscious emotions and stresses build up and overload the autonomic nervous system - causing various symptoms including muscle pain. Every day Stress and Pressure and Responsibility create emotions which we repress (bury or stuff) into our subconscious minds. Over time, these strong repressed emotions activate and overload the Autonomic Nervous System; creating various symptoms including muscle pain. If you learn how to focus on the REAL cause of AOS pain - repressed emotions - you can reverse the Autonomic Overload that's causing your Pain! Patients often experience significant relief within a couple weeks. Symptoms can resolve quickly once you identify the true source of pain. 80% of AOS patients will experience significant or complete pain relief within six weeks after they begin the Pain Free treatment program."

 

Theadora - March 11

"Your personality traits could be affecting your subconscious and causing you to handle your emotions dangerously. As you learn about these personalities, remember that the main question to keep in mind is: How does my particular personality cause dangerous emotions - and therefore predispose me to pain? Also, remember that your personality will stay with you for life, but you don't have to become a victim of pain - not if you're aware of the dangerous emotions often associated with your personality, and if you make a commitment to avoid repressing those emotions. The following descriptions are excerpts from Dr. Brady's book. "

 

Theadora - March 11

"PEOPLE PLEASER: you are generally other-centered or other-directed. In other words, you tend to put others before yourself because it is the good and nice thing to do. To avoid conflict, you rarely tell other people what you really think of them. Although you may have strong opinions, you usually won't strongly disagree with anyone openly. On the whole, most people would describe you as a happy, sweet, and non-confrontational person. People-Pleasers are nice and kind and sensitive people. They care deeply about what others think of them, and are always worrying if they may have angered or disappointed someone, or how someone else might feel about them. It is rare for a People-Pleaser to interrupt others or make abrupt and hasty decisions. People-Pleasers often neglect their own personal desires and needs while pasting a smile on their face. Does this sound familiar? * I put others before myself, because it is the good thing to. * If I told people what I really think they might be upset. * I spend a lot of energy being nice all the time, and I swallow any anger or bad thoughts I have. * I think a lot about how others might not like me or be disappointed with me. * Sometimes I feel drained meeting the needs of others, but I would never let that be known. "I will be happy, pleasant, and liked by everyone."

 

Theadora - March 11

"FEAR-PRONE: you almost always anticipate the worst will happen… or think you're weak and frail… or feel that life in general is stacked against you. You may mistrust most people for quite a while until you start to feel safer and more comfortable around them. Having a Fear-Prone personality, your mind always goes to the worst possibility of any situation and tends to feel that life is out of control. Fear-Prone people can present very different faces - from the socially outgoing to the quiet and withdrawn. Outgoing Fear-Prone people actually avoid intimacy rather than people, and are fearful of what others think of them (in a way similar to the People-Pleaser personality). Withdrawn Fear-Prone people may use their shyness as a way to prevent others from becoming close, hurting them in the process. They may also feel and see rejection where it does not exist. Does this sound familiar? * My mind always thinks of the "worst case scenario" in most situations. * I'm frequently afraid that I've got something wrong with my body - that no one can figure out. * A day does not pass without me feeling worried about something. * It takes a lot of energy to have so much anxiety and fear and keep my concerns under control. * People think I'm weird, but I just like to be very cautious so that nothing bad happens. "Thinking about the unknown makes me feel uptight."

 

Theadora - March 11

"PERFECTIONIST: you're a Perfectionist, you are conscientious, productive, and achievement-oriented. You are an extremely careful person. You want all your tasks and projects to be complete to the final detail, without flaws. Everything needs to be done right, and you have a clear understanding of what that means. Perfectionists are good organizers; they enjoy things being neat and tidy. They also like control, correctness, and orderliness. Perfectionists aren't perfect, but they'd like to be. They tend to be a driven person, highly motivated, and self-critical. When you are a Perfectionist, a task or job is usually an all-or-nothing affair. They don't like being wrong or corrected; it goes against their deep need to be right. A Perfectionist personality grows and thrives as they constantly try to prove to themselves and others that they're not inadequate or average. Does this sound familiar? * I like to be Right … all the time if possible. * If I fail, I'll just try harder - I hate when I make mistakes. * I don't like to talk about my faults, my failures, or my inadequacies. * I live with constant pressure; most of which is self-imposed. * I get frustrated a lot with others when they don't do things right."

 

Theadora - March 11


"LEGALIST: is similar in some ways to the Perfectionist: The Perfectionist likes to do things right, but the Legalist likes to be right in almost every situation or topic of discussions. As a Legalist, when you make up your mind about something, you commit wholeheartedly to it and rarely change your mind. Just as you honor your commitments you expect other to honor theirs as well. Legalists can be either conservative or liberal in their political or religious views, but a common trait is that they will argue their point of view as long and hard and passionately as anyone possibly can. Legalists are both responsible and sensible. They're strongly committed to keeping their word. For this reason, they often take time before making big commitments and promises. Legalists are careful and deliberate when approaching a potentially close relationship - they may evaluate a potential partner by making lists and checking things off like a report card. Does this sound familiar? * I enjoy being right in almost every discussion or conversation. * People would be better-off if they behaved the right way - like me. * I have a hard time accepting gifts or complements. * I get irritated a lot when people make the wrong choices in life. * There are some things that are "off limits" to talk about with me. "I enjoy being right in almost every discussion and conversation."

 

Theadora - March 11

"THE STOIC: you are uncomfortable with having or expressing strong emotions - anger, abounding joy, passionate love, or deep sorrow. Your feelings are not for the public. Crying in movies, in religious services, etc. is way out of bounds. You believe that strong emotions like fear, envy, passion, and love should be kept to oneself. When you do cry you feel weak and exposed. You tend to repress your emotions instead of letting them known. A Stoics sense of strength comes from having emotions under control; the emotionless state feels powerful and stable. They probably don't intend to repress strong emotions; they've just reached the point where they don't feel many strong emotions. In order to maintain balance and feel comfortable, Stoics often deny that they experience strong emotions. Stoics might acknowledge feeling a little angry or guilty or even fearful, but their face doesn't show it because they allow themselves to experience only a small fraction of the emotion while subconsciously repressing almost all of it. Does this sound familiar? * If I bottle up my emotion then people will know that I am under control and I will avoid all types problems. * I'm uncomfortable with strong emotion- I've always been this way. * I'm not trying to hide my emotions I just don't feel as strongly as others do. * I am so disciplined that most people around me can't even tell when I am angry. * I believe a stiff upper lip is always preferable to a teary eye. "If I can just put a cap on my emotions, I will be perceived as strong."

 

Theadora - March 11

"COMBO PERSONALITY: About two-thirds of seem to identify with one of the above five major pain-prone personalities. The other third are a mixture of various pain-prone personalities - usually two of them. As a result, Dr. Brady often refer to them as Combo personalities. In general, the more severe and pervasive your pains, the more likely it is that you have more than one set of pain personality traits. For this reason, Combo pain personalities typically suffer from the more complex chronic pain packages, such as FIBROMYALGIA. Is it harder to be cured of your AOS pain if you incorporate more than one pain personality type? Definitely not! If you do have a combination of pain-prone personality traits that are causing symptoms related to Autonomic Overload Syndrome, rest assured that the success rate for your Combo personality in the Pain Free for Life program is the same as that of those who have only one personality type."

 

Theadora - March 11

"So... Now What? You should now be beginning to understand how your past experiences, present circumstances, and pain-prone personality all contribute to the Mountain of strong repressed dangerous emotions that causes PAIN. The underlying cause of the pain is the mind's defense mechanism against unconscious mental stress it does not want to cope with, or even directly confront, emotions such as anger, anxiety and narcissistic rage. Rather than confront the stress and its underlying causes, the unconscious mind (acting via the limbic system) causes mild oxygen deprivation in muscles, nerves or tendons, and thereby causes physical pain. The conscious mind will therefore be distracted by this physical pain, enhancing the automatic repression process to keep the anger/rage contained in the unconscious. This strategy is designed by the brain to keep such emotional stress from surfacing in the conscious mind, thus assisting in the repression of painful emotions and preventing awareness of them. TMS is real pain, with an immediate cause that is both real and physical. It is a "distraction pain syndrome" of sorts."

 

Theadora - March 11

"Educating the mind is the most important step in the process to make it go away. However, patients should first have a thorough physical examination by a qualified physician. This is done primarily to exclude more serious conditions, such as fractures, tumors, or infections that require conventional care, but it also can identify symptoms that are typical of TMS, such as certain *Tender Points* that become painful when pressed. The remaining steps include firstly "Repudiate the physical and acknowledge the psychological aspect" which includes moving around and resuming normal activity as much as you can bear, without worrying about pain. "Drive the concept to your unconscious" by repeatedly focusing on exactly what your unconscious mind is attempting to repress - the sources of your anger. The patient is encouraged to record emotionally significant events and make correlations between them and their physical pain. The point is to become aware of repressed emotions, which usually involves identifying their sources. The three major sources include (1) Childhood (2) Personality type (self-critical, overly responsible, perfectionist, guilt, shame) (3) Life's challenges. Once the mind understands the trick it is playing on itself, it gives up the ruse, and the symptoms will usually disappear after daily repetition."

 

Theadora - March 11

It may take some time, but it does work... I know! I am hoping this is helping someone else! Start by simply taking a Journal. write down what has happened to you in your life, write and think about the things you DON"T want to think about... that is your freedom key! What stress was happening to you when all this pain started? What trauma have you been through? Did someone die? Leave you? Were you in an accident? Think about your FEELINGS about those things and try to take focus OFF your BODY! Many time we have been suffering for so long we become obsessed with the body and nothing else matters! Do the OPPOSITE for a few weeks! Go deep inside and just you see what happens!!! Good Luck and Good Health my friends!

 

Adaire - March 15

Hi Thea, I think you are right about becoming obsessed with our bodies. I know I have been, especially when all this shit first started. I do relate to the personality types and my pain did start after a stressful period. I will start journalling about my emotions instead of my symptoms and see what happens. I ordered Pain Free For Life by Dr Brady from Amazon.com after reading your posts. I really hope it does help me. I do yoga and fully understand the mind-body link, so this post really spoke to me. I wouldn't be surprised by this theory at all. I'll let you know and thanks.

 

Iinda - March 15

It surprises me how few responses there are to this subject. I constantly see people out here saying that they got sick after someone close died, they divorced, an accident, etc... and I have seen all of the above listed personalities at their Extreme play out on this site Many times... maybe no one is reading this post , or maybe we're in denial? I have placed a hold on this book at the library. Apparently its very popular, so I might be on hold a bit, but I can't wait to read the whole thing. I don't know if this is the answer either, but having a look at the mind/body connection certainly can't hurt. What good are doctors really doing for us? I have been sick for a long long time now. What's that old saying? Physician- heal thyself.

 

almsha - March 15

Theadora, I loved reading about the personality traits and totally agree. I am a people pleaser and do know that when I practice a positive attitude about things I am better than at other times. Thank you for this insightful information.

 

Adaire - March 23

Hi gals. I'm still waiting on Brady's book to arrive in the mail. Linda and Almsha have you started reading it yet? I'm interested to hear other people's opinions on this. I also ordered Freedom From Fibromyalgia by Dr Selfridge which is along the same vein, and supposed to be fantastic as well.

 

Theadora - March 25

Yes Dr Selfrydge book is also very good. Hers is even more about just fibro not all other type of pain too. I am so blessed that my posts be helping to you. keep hope and post your progress to help other readers. Glory Be!

 

Iinda - April 11

Hi again girls. I am working through my first read of Pain Free For Life- by: Dr Scott Brady & it is wonderful. I highly recommend it to anyone who has fibro or any kind of chronic pain. I am hopeful & would love to hear from anyone else reading it too.

 

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