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Depressed and needing a moan
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Ann-Marie - November 12

I hope you dont mind but I really need to let off some steam. I am feeling so low today that I really can't see the point anymore. After years of being misdiagnosed I finally got a FMS diagnosis and staretd to rebuild my life. I was out of work for a while due to pain, fatugue depression etc, but a month ago i was offered a job based on my skills and my interview and they now want me to go and see their Dr before they formalise things. They say I need medical clearance. I know this is a normal procedure but it has made me feel yet again that I am being judged on what I cant do rather than what I can. I feel so low. I was so looking forward to starting the job but now all my old depressive, worthless feelings are coming back. I guess i just need a "hug" from the forum XX


tonyab1838 - November 1

I know how you feel Ann-Marie. I am to start my new job on Monday doing what I used to do, Medical Billing. The problem is that I don't know if my arms will hold out. That is the reason I had to leave my last job. It's the one thing that I am good at but the one thing that can put me over the edge. All you can do is your best and remember this disorder is NOT your fault! Just go in with a positive attitude, I know that's hard, and if you can't do it, then at least you gave it your best shot. I will be praying for you and hope that things go well. Let us know. Take care and God bless!


Jean - November 1

There is a program for your company to look into, I think from the ADA which can help secure your job or help the company make you comfortable in or for your job performance and they get a kick back sort of speak for doing this for you. Check it out. I do not know what type of job you have gone for but hopefully it is not physical because you may not be able to accomplish that. Desk, sure, no problem. Maybe they just want to be sure you can handle the stress levels, talk to them if you've already talked about you problem of Fibromyalgia. Don't let one company put you back to feeling worthless, they just don't know what they're missing...... Keep your chin up, it will happen when the time is right.


Ann-Marie - November 2

Are you guys from USA? I'm Uk and we have something called Disability Disacrimination Acts which I think must be similar to your ADA. Thanks for your comments. Its a part-time clerical job and I'm sure I can cope with the back and neck pain if I pace myself. I guess I was just feeling a bit annoyed because the medical questionnaire was all about what I can't do and not about what my strengths are. Thanks for your support. Take Care XX


tonyab1838 - November 2

A desk job is just as demanding as any other job, I know. It kills your back, neck and arms. I myself have problems that are severe with my arms. I don't know why people act as if because you work behind a desk it isn't stressful on the body. I know that every job out there is hard when you have FMS. I hope that you do well. Let us know. Take care and God bless! - November 2

I think any job can be injuring to you because of the repition that one does all day long. You can bend down to pick up a piece of paper and throw your back out. With this condition you need to pace yourself and be able to get up from that desk to stretch and move about and I think any good employer would allow this.


Faye - November 12

Dear Anne Marie I know what you mean about needing to moan .I get so depressed I stay in my house too much I am not motivated by anything I used to be a workaholic in my home but I no longer work a job and I don't clean my house very much and I'm so embarrassed when someone drops over wiyhout calling first.but my pain has almost consumed me at times I'm hanging in there though I'm so thankful I found this site because it a long way to the nearest support group thanks all you folks for the q&a



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