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Angry At Work
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weemama - October 26

Hello everyone: I am having alot of trouble at work with my anger level. Everything seems to get to me lately and I get so angry. I am not this person. What is happening to me? I really try to be happy, but most of the time I am pretending. I wish I could get out of this angry part of me and go back to the me I used to be..Anyone out there have the same feelings? Help Please!

 

iliveinpain - October 26

Yeah, I feel that way alot of times too. When it happens to me it's cause I just hurt and am so fatigued I can barely hold my head up. Of course too, people at work don't understand what I'm going thru, and that only adds to the frustration.

 

axxie - October 26

Yep, know exactly what you are going through. I had the same time happen to me, when I was working. I'm thinking it's the blaring lights, the high level of noise and the constant interuptions.

We get tired easily, we lack concentration, and noise, lights will rip you apart in a minute flat. I bought myself ear plugs the cheap kind and bought myself a nice comfortable wrap around pair of sunglasses. Also you should not have a printer in your shared space, the fumes will make you sick. If you can get another chair in your space, even if it's old, it's ok, it just helps to change chairs during the day. I set my phone to take messages and I would not talk, unless absolutely necessary. I know you may find this difficult to do, depending on the job you are doing, but look at ways things are done and see if another arrangement can be made.

I've been off for a year now, and I'm gearing myself to go back. Wow, that's going to be interesting.

Go to bed early and do take your meds and do take vitamins they help us.

 

brooksidefarm - October 26

I closed my business because I just could not seem to cope with little employee hassels that never bothered me before. I felt like it was not worth it. Now it is not as bad, but I catch myself in a sour mood sometimes in the morning and taking it out on my husband and son. I try to realize that it is a signal that a "bad body" day has arrived and then purposely try to keep things quieter - even my voice, and take the to do list down a couple notches. That helps diffuse my mood and is better for everyone. Praying also works wonders. God bless.

 

lorieholtz - October 27

hi weemama
by chance are you on cymbalta. the reason i ask is while i was on it i became so moody and angry with everyone, which is not my personality.
take care
lorieholtz

 

Fantod - October 27

I think the anger comes from having to hold it all together and act normal when you have unrelenting pain and exhaustion. And yet, you are expected to juggle everything that comes with the job like a "normal" person.

I haven't worked in several years but I remember how bad I felt right before I quit. It sure doesn't help to have other people humming along all around you while you struggle to remember how to run the photocopier. I would get upset and then havre to talk myself down off the ledge. I did try to think of ways to make things simpler for myself which helped. I wish I had something more concrete to offer here. My feeling is that you have to find a way to accept the limitations imposed by FMS. I no longer compare myself to other people, have no expectations and basically go about my business the best way I know how. Take care.

 

solanadelfina - October 27

I have that problem occasionally, too. I still work in retail and the screaming kids for fifteen minutes are what really get to me. I call them "black moods". ("Honey, if just jiggling the stroller didn't work the first five times, it won't work the sixth!")

Is there a way you could take a little break when it's really bad? I'll go in the breakarea and lie down on the couch for about ten minutes with my iPod and listen to some of my favorite music. Sometimes just taking yourself out of the situation can help, as well as enjoying something you love.

Another trick that's helped me comes from 'Happy Gilmore'. He's told to think of his 'happy place, a place that feels perfect.' I took a moment, shut my eyes, and pictured me and my family playing on the white beaches in front of the Atlantis.

Also on those days, when I get home I try to spoil myself a little. Exercising and a good rant or cry can help get it out of the system. I'll bring up a wordpad document, type everything that's on my mind on it, all the angry stuff, and then read and delete it. After it's gone, a nice hot bath with salts and a good book with tea to follow can help. Sometimes it means getting out of the house and getting a massage in a beautiful setting.

Is there any particular situation that really sucks at work that could maybe be remedied or spotted? Is there a way you could make your work environment more homey to yourself? (Say a bouquet of fresh flowers on a desk, or some essential oils, or a little glass bowl of your favorite treats, or some pretty pictures?)

Good luck. Fibro hugs and know that you're not alone in this!

 

KBRAINARD - November 2

HI LORI,

I SEEN WHAT YOU POSTED. I HAVE A QUESTION FOR YOU. I'M ON CYM AND I THINK IT IS WORKING FOR THE PAIN MOST DAYS HOWEVER MY HUSBAND IS ALWAYS TELLING ME I HAVE CHANGED AND IM VERY MOODY. HE WANTS HIS WIFE BACK. HE SEEMS TO THINK ITS THE MEDS I AM TAKING.CAN YOU TELL ME WHAT YOU ARE TAKING FOR MEDS.
THANKS
KENDRA

 

bmcgovern - November 3

I get really irritable, but i also act like i am fine. One thing that does help at home is yoga. The meditation it really calms you. I have taken natural medication for my moods, but nothing has helped. I just deal with it and try my best to keep myself calm. I have snapped at my husband and he will tell me when i am like that so i think about it and just take some deep breaths to try to calm down. I hoped this helped.
Good Luck.

 

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