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FibroGal - I've been tossing this around in my mind for a day. I am going to try and give you some perspective on this siutation. Certainly any degree of stress is going to set off your FMS. However, I think that you should learn to pick and choose what you are going to let ruin a few days wherever possible.

Don't get me wrong, I am also a Michael Jackson fan in relation to his musical talent. I was shocked and dismayed when I heard that he had passed away. But, he is not immediate family. There are more important things that I need to remain focused on in my life than the death of a celebrity.

The first thing on my list is my health. Anything or anyone who is going to cause me to lose a day or a week with angst over something I have absolutely no control over has got to go. I allow myself a short time frame to get over whatever has me riled up and move on. It is all about self protection when it comes to the ups and downs of FMS. The more proactive you are in these situations, the better your quality of life. My attitude does not extend to my circle of family and friends unless it is warranted.

Rather than ruminating on a situation that you can not fix, honor the memory. Celebrate MJ's life by listening to and enjoying his music. I hope that my comments are helpful to you in some way. Take care.

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I can understand you being upset for a few minutes of the passing of an idol but don't get your emotions hang up your health.

I grew up on MJ and enjoy his music and I found what he did sometimes very amusing or silly but being upset over his passing, takes to much emotional efforts on you.

You can be emotionally attached to friends and family and if they passed yes, be emotionally upset but I try to see the positive of death then just an emotional roller coaster of emotions.

My father in-law who I loved dearly, passed away just a few weeks ago of cancer, he was in terrible pain because the cancer was in his bones. Yes, he had quality care and they gave him combination of pain relief, they would revise what they gave him constantly to try to get him as comfortable as possible, but when dying of bone cancer there is nothing more terrible then that.

I had my good cry, and then I rejoiced and was happy for him that he no longer suffered. Yes, I still feel emotional, but not to the extend of me feeling upset and getting my fibro worked up.

I cannot afford to think, sad, I have to take care of me, and let go of emotions and think positively. It's all about protecting your emotions.

Since my fibro, I have learned to protect my emotions and to rid of anything negative in my life, I have begun to really appreciate the fact that I now choose positive only. I cannot afford to do any less if I want to be pain free.

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HI everyon
I hear ya Axxie! My sister died of bone cancer at age 37, and it is the worst pain. When ever I have a flare up I think of her pain and it eases mine a bit as I know her pain was much worse.
And that was 25 yrs ago. I still miss her and feel sad of her loss but I am and was happy she was naot suffering anymore. Fibrogal, I agree, with fantod and Axxie , I loved MJs music and he is around my age so it bothered me but, There are more important things that I need to remain focused on in my life than the death of a celebrity.
Celebrate MJ's life by listening to and enjoying his music.Rather than ruminating on a situation that you can not fix, honor the memory! Feel better!

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