A beloved one wanting to know how to deal with thier partners FMS
Zita - Oct 26th, 2005 8:26 AM
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I want to know how to talk to my partner when he has one of his FMS attacks and begins to speak in a very negative manner about himself and FMS. He has began saying that its unfair on me but i try to reasure him that i am here for him when ever he needs me and that i feel what he is going though. I want to get him into some Congnitive behaviour theropy, but if i was to mention this he would hit the roof. Is there a way of saying this without making it sound bad, and making it convincing with love? Please help me.

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Ann-Marie - Oct 26th, 2005 8:26 AM

Zita:- It is really nice and encouraging that you are so supportive. Please reassure your husband that there is nothing wrong with CBT. I had years of trying different pain medication and going back and forth to the doctors and the hospital. Finally I was referred through a pain clinic to see a Clinical Psychologist who treated me using Cognitive Behavvioural Therapy. i found this more helpful than anything else I have tried. Finally having someone who listened to me about how the pain affected my whole life was an enormous help. She has also encouranged me to make the most of my good days and to be more spontaneous as I was letting the condition rule my life. It was all about setting small goals for myself and seeing them through. I can understand your husband feeling that this support is not for him but please tell him that it really helps. Try getting a referral to a pain clinic as they treat the "whole" person. Take care and let me know how you get on XX