angry and frusterated!
dolphin22 - Oct 25th, 2009 8:30 AM
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Hi There
Just wondering if anyone has some advice as to how I should deal with the anger that I feel. Everyday, I wake up and I really do give acceptance a really good try, but most of the time, the anger overcomes me. I just can't seem to accept that this is my life. I can't seem to accept being in pain, feeling like my mind is working part-time, and never knowing if I will wake up feeling good, or unable to move. I am thirty years old, and I have two children to care for. I just want to be normal again. Thanks for listening.

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ptalana - Oct 25th, 2009 11:30 AM

Me too dolphin22, what is normal anyway???? I can't seem to remember, lol. Anger, frustration, and finally a new determination to overcome what I can and like (not just accept) the new me??!!! Wish me luck on that one, I'm gonna need it.;)
I guess what was once our previous normal is no longer. Normal really is subjective and now we work on this new normal. I hope once the pain management is in order this will be alot easier???
Hope springs eternal, right.....????
Take care, Patty


Fantod - Oct 25th, 2009 7:36 PM

dolphin22 - You are going through a grieving process. Anger is just one of the steps. Even on good days, Fibromyalgia (FMS) is overwhelming. We'd all like to be "normal" again. Like you, I can never plan anything. I used be totally and absolutely dependable and now I am a menace to society. This is the new "normal." I may not like it, but beating myself up over something I can not fix doesn't work either.

You need to focus on what you can do as opposed to what you are no longer able to manage. Learn to be grateful for the simple things. Sometimes thinking outside the box will give you a solution to managing something in a different way.

If you really can not stop this cycle on your own, maybe it is time to ask for some professional help. No shame - many of us see counselers for support and guidance. You can call your local hospital physician referral service and ask them for someone who specializes in chronic pain and/or illness.

The bottom line is FMS is not going to go away so the sooner you learn to coexist with it peacefully the easier your life will become. You should also give some consideration to how your children may be perceiving your difficulty. Kids are smart and pick up on things we don't always give them credit for understanding. They may think that you are angry wwith them for some reason. If you take yourself out of the equation, I think things become a bit clearer.

My heart really does go out to everyone struggling with FMS. I feel like my identity has been stolen. The difference being there is nothing tangible I can do to get it back. I have had to make the best out of the situation. By doing that, I do have some quality of life. Take care and let us know how you are doing from time to time. God Bless.